Marriage is not about the sweet
little things like eating together, go to work together or holding hands
together. It’s not just that. It is all about the responsibility and
acceptance. It’s about creating a new relationship with a new family. And of
course, it requires two persons to trust each other.
I know it is a huge decision for
parents to let go of their daughter for a marriage. They are thinking that how time
flies that their cute little pie are now a young lady. And of course they are
thinking of how a guy can take care of their princess.
They have their own concerns. What
can a guy gives to their daughter? How will he manages to take care of her? Does
he can fulfill their daughter’s needs? Or will he loves her like they did?
An understanding guy will notice
it without being told. A desperate guy will ignore this because he just thinking
about himself and his own happiness.
And this is what I would like to
say to a guy out there.
You are fall in love with someone
else daughter and you are going to marry her. Life is not just revolves between
both of you. It is you, your family and hers. You should be much responsible.
You shouldn’t complaining too much, try to accept her like how her parents get
used to her.
There might be times when you don’t
like her attitude. Tell her. Not provoking her mistake. Listen to what she
wants to say instead of give her the direction. You are not going to decide
what she can or cannot do. You are going to guide her to achieve what you want
her to be.
You are not her boss. You are
going to be someone who is near and dear to her heart. You are more than her
bestfriend, and you are everything for her. So, please be aware of your attitude
and the way you treat her.
“Men marry women with the hope they will never
change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are
both disappointed.” ― H.M. Harwood
Okay, no hard feeling. Maybe it’s
a little bit harsh, but it’s actually helps.
And everything that I said
earlier, are from my observations. This is how I see things. We might have a
different views or arguments, but that’s okay because I was born to understand
that everyone has their own ideas. So I respect them all as long as people
respect mine. That’s fair right?
So, the purpose of talking about
this is because I don’t want to get blind with what people show in social media
regarding the life after marriage. I want to be realistic. I want to cope with
the responsibility, not just thinking about the sweetness. That’s it.