Fasabrun Jamil
A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

Marriage is not about the sweet little things like eating together, go to work together or holding hands together. It’s not just that. It is all about the responsibility and acceptance. It’s about creating a new relationship with a new family. And of course, it requires two persons to trust each other.


I know it is a huge decision for parents to let go of their daughter for a marriage. They are thinking that how time flies that their cute little pie are now a young lady. And of course they are thinking of how a guy can take care of their princess.

It’s not easy.

They have their own concerns. What can a guy gives to their daughter? How will he manages to take care of her? Does he can fulfill their daughter’s needs? Or will he loves her like they did?

Everything is counted.

An understanding guy will notice it without being told. A desperate guy will ignore this because he just thinking about himself and his own happiness.

And this is what I would like to say to a guy out there.

You are fall in love with someone else daughter and you are going to marry her. Life is not just revolves between both of you. It is you, your family and hers. You should be much responsible. You shouldn’t complaining too much, try to accept her like how her parents get used to her.

There might be times when you don’t like her attitude. Tell her. Not provoking her mistake. Listen to what she wants to say instead of give her the direction. You are not going to decide what she can or cannot do. You are going to guide her to achieve what you want her to be.

You are not her boss. You are going to be someone who is near and dear to her heart. You are more than her bestfriend, and you are everything for her. So, please be aware of your attitude and the way you treat her.
“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” ― H.M. Harwood


Okay, no hard feeling. Maybe it’s a little bit harsh, but it’s actually helps.

And everything that I said earlier, are from my observations. This is how I see things. We might have a different views or arguments, but that’s okay because I was born to understand that everyone has their own ideas. So I respect them all as long as people respect mine. That’s fair right?

So, the purpose of talking about this is because I don’t want to get blind with what people show in social media regarding the life after marriage. I want to be realistic. I want to cope with the responsibility, not just thinking about the sweetness. That’s it.